Interracial taboo — More insight on white females’ powerful lust for sex with black males

[This entry was initially posted to the original Red Keyhole blog on 17 March 2011.]

Several previous postings on this blog have discussed the Interracial taboo and “the curiously strong compulsion of many white women to breach this taboo and to have unrestrained sex with black males” – see, for example:

Interracial taboo (white women desiring black men) adds forbidden “spice” to alternative sex behaviors

In addition, the particularly curious practice of Mandingo sex parties has been discussed in the posting:

“Meet the Mandingos” – Media spotlight on hot niche of “alternative lifestyle” spiced by racial taboo

One should note that the Interracial taboo operates in various forms, including attraction between black females and white males (and, of course, between other different racial-ethnic groups) … and it’s not confined to heterosexual relationships, either. Nevertheless, Red Keyhole – and numerous other observers – do perceive extraordinarily strong forces at work in terms of sexual relationships between white females and black (African-heritage) males.

The following commentary, drawn from excerpts from a January 2011 posting to the Black Men, White Wife and Cuckold blog, provides some interesting perspective and insight on this issue. This is certainly a welcome discussion, focusing a limelight on an issue that is typically kept in shadows. To some of these views and assertions, responses from the perspective of the Red Keyhole blog have been interspersed.


Many white women seem extraordinarily excited by sexual recreation with black male partners.

The original narrative, which includes somewhat mature and sexually explicit language, has been slightly edited for readability.

Healthy and Whole

Why Black Men and White Women Need Each Other and What This Means for our Society.

Have you ever wondered, I mean … REALLY wondered why black men and white women are seeking each other out in such record numbers these days? Is it the taboo, changing times, integrated neighborhoods, civil rights, or all of the above? Is the black man really better endowed, and therefore better in bed?

Well … the answer is a combination of many things; however, the most important reason I believe this is happening is that there remains an innate attraction between black men and white women that goes beyond any of these explanations. It is why black men and white women create the most sexually intense and exciting combination, and why this phenomenon of black men with white women is changing the sexual dynamic of this country, and is well on the way to becoming mainstream, even as it remains the best-kept secret in our society. Yes, it IS a secret, a dark and lovely secret that is transforming the sexuality of our society.

Red Keyhole response:

Well, maybe … but maybe it has a lot more to do with that above-mentioned taboo (a roaring powerful taboo, rooted in a history of slavery and colonial repression) … and what about “opposites attract”? … And some other dynamics in play here (see further comments below)?

Why does this remain so clandestine? Why is this allowed to go on? Why is it not discouraged? Why has the Christian right wing not exposed it or opposed it? Why is it that a few decades after the reality of blatant racial segregation, black men and white women are coming together sexually, sometimes openly, but mostly in secret, to enjoy each other? So many questions, so few answers.

Interracial sex has existed all throughout history and throughout our country’s history. It began when the first African slaves came to these shores, and interestingly enough, it was more tolerated before the Civil War than it was after it! We hear of the white master’s taking of black female slaves for his sexual pleasure, while he prohibited black males from being with white females sexually.

Well, this may be somewhat overstated. I for one cannot believe that what we observe today did not go on in the past. Yes, white men took black slave women sexually, but black men also had intimate contact with white women. That ANY black man had sexual access to white women in the old slave South CANNOT, I believe, be purely accidental! I believe the fascination of white men with interracial coupling existed even back then, but the white man DARED NOT openly tolerate, much less admit, that his woman might possibly find the black man sexually attractive, lest he lose control over his woman, and by extension, his manhood and entire society.

The white man could not afford to allow the expression of black male sexuality to be openly expressed in his society, because he felt that it threatened the entire social order he had so carefully tried to maintain. To accept the validity of black male sexuality, the white man by extension would have had to accept the black male as a human being worthy of respect and dignity within his society. To the slave masters of the old South, that would have meant the end of their way of life, OR SO THEY ASSUMED!

Red Keyhole response:

Probably a lot of truth to this, and probably also much of the origins of the Interracial taboo against white women with black men … The history of American capitalism is integral with an explosive mixture of racial and sexual dynamics atop the fundamental dynamic of ruling class oppression.

Another factor in Southern slavery would be the role of monogamy in ensuring “proper” inheritance of the slaveowners’ property (including their slaves). To permit sex between white wives (or even single white women) and black slaves not only would have confused these lines of inheritance, but also would have challenged the absolute supremacy of the white slaveholding ruling class.

The Civil War was supposedly fought to end slavery; however, that is an oversimplification. There were a number of issues that brought the two sides to conflict, slavery arguably being the most prominent issue among them. The end of the war brought an end to slavery, but not to the prejudice against Africans, and most certainly not to the fear of black male sexuality.

Now, the black man was technically, legally a free man, but he was even more feared because now he could not legally be controlled by society. Interracial sex, or miscegenation, as it was called, was even less tolerated now, because it was perceived as more of a threat to the social order than before!

The idea that white women could or would choose to be with a black man sexually was intolerable in the post-Civil War South. Before the Civil War, the white masters had TOTAL control over black men as slaves, so if there was interracial activity, it could be covered up much more easily.

Part of what the white masters feared was a loss of their perceived manhood if their women desired or chose black males as sexual partners. That fear intensified after the Civil War because now the white man could not control the black man to the degree he had in the past, although the black man was in fact not much better off than under slavery.

Red Keyhole response:

Perceptive insights here, particularly in terms of the post-Civil War white ruling class needing to intensify the Interracial taboo in the context of a relatively “freer” black population. However, the sexuality aspect – the threat to the white rulers’ “manhood” – must be perceived in the predominant context of class oppression and maintaining the rule of a racist white bourgeoisie.

The civil rights movement of the 50’s and 60’s started the changes that we see still evolving today. Part of those changes is the acknowledged freedom for people of different races to be sexually intimate. Nobody can quite predict where this will ultimately lead, but it IS clear that nothing is going to stop it, and nothing is even ATTEMPTING to stop it. Why is this? I mean, if white men still control society and government, couldn’t they put a stop to this even if by illegitimate means? Given the power of social and government institutions that white men have, wouldn’t it be entirely possible to undermine all of this freedom in very subtle ways, so that the expression of it is still frustrated? I would argue that it could, very easily, but the fact is that it is NOT!

Why do I say this? Well, just take a stroll down any suburban mall in most parts of the country and you will see at least several interracial couples walking hand in hand, kissing, openly showing affection with each other. These couples are overwhelmingly BLACK MALES with WHITE FEMALES, and they are also teenagers!

Red Keyhole response:

Hey, pal, Red Keyhole suggests you RETHINK this: “…it IS clear that nothing is going to stop it, and nothing is even ATTEMPTING to stop it.” Let’s assume, with your (rather insightful) psycho-sexual-political analysis of America’s slavery era, Civil War, and Jim Crow, post-Civil War era, you’re writing in an American context. You are writing in what is almost surely the most racist nation on earth. While that racism boiled over in the 2008 election (remember GOP political cartoons featuring Obama with watermelons and fried chicken?), it’s been seething just beneath the surface since the year Zot – who can forget the racist attack on Tennessee Dem Senatorial candidate Harold Ford, Jr., suggesting a sexual liaison with a sexy white female admirer (hint: it worked – Ford lost).

Given the convenient alignment of political opportunities, the fear card, national crisis, and the emergence of a bona fide full-fledged fascist movement, the Tea Party and their political beneficiaries, the Teabag GOP, are quite prepared to resuscitate this country’s toxic anti-“miscegenation” laws. Blacks (and Muslims and immigrants) in today’s USA have the same targets on their backs as did the Jews in the Nazis’ Germany.

Sorry, pal … Red Keyhole is with you in spirit, but to drop your guard down, and assume that tolerance of interracial sex is set in concrete forever, is a dangerous illusion.

If there is hostility out there toward these couples I have not seen it! It seems entirely accepted in mainstream America! You see it in clubs, on the subway, starting to be depicted on TV, in movies, etc.

The reality is that … it is HERE, and nobody seems to want to stop it or roll it back. White society has gotten over much of their fear, their shock, and their insecurity over these interracial relationships.

Red Keyhole response:

Open your eyes, compañero … the racist hostility is there. In most cases, it’s a teeny-tiny minority, but it very definitely is there. Yes, the media like to tickle the taboo (a dollop of scandal pulls in audiences and lifts ratings), but that can all be swept away – outlawed – in an instant in American capitalism’s future history.

Leave the suburban malls, leave the movie theatres, and sit in plenty of (white-dominated) cafes and honkytonks across this country, when a black and white couple walk in. The raw racist reaction you’ll see is like a loaded gun ready to shoot, ready for its trigger to be pulled when the ruling class deems that would be appropriate (and crucial to its interests) to mobilize a fascist base, rev up racist fear, and unleash a new wave of racist legislation to scare the public into submission. (You’re already seeing that kind of political dynamic in today’s far-right crusade against gays, immigrants, and now labor.)

As that fear has abated, we are now witness to something else, which is arguably another point in the evolution of feelings and ideas. We still as a society have some fear and insecurity, but now we see and feel something else as well, and that something is excitement! Through the subsiding of our fear we can now begin to see the beauty of black and white together. We are now able to appreciate the beauty of the interracial relationship, which is still at this point predominantly black man and white woman, because there is nothing quite so awesomely beautiful as the black man and white woman together!

There are white male and black female couples as well. This too is increasing, but nowhere near as popular as black men and white women. There is a natural and innate attraction on the part of black men for white women.

That which had been denied and held to be so taboo draws the black man for just those reasons. I believe that much of this attraction is sexually based and inspired. The black man’s sexuality is powerful, vibrant, and intense. The white woman draws out of the black man the most exciting aspects of his sexuality, because she presents to him everything that he has traditionally been denied.

Red Keyhole response:

OK … undoubtedly, lots of white women have the extraordinarily strong hots for black males, no question … Because it’s exciting? Undoubtably … But whether black guys are extra-sexy, and every white woman “draws out of the black man the most exciting aspects of his sexuality” just because he’s been denied this white delight for 200 years or so … dunno about that …

The black man desires to know the white woman intimately; he wants to touch, to taste, to smell, to be enveloped by her Caucasian sexuality. He wants to bury his manhood deeply into that soft pink yielding flesh, which welcomes his thrusts, his ejaculation, and thus validates his potent black sexuality. Black men cum hard when in “their” white women, because they are welcomed, accepted, and treasured in the white woman’s bed!

They are also increasingly treasured in the WHITE COUPLE’S BED! How can this be? There has emerged out of the changes wrought by the civil rights movement a new phenomenon. Now, rather than fear and rejection of the black man, more and more white couples are embracing the sexual magic that the black man can work on the white woman, and willingly including the black man within the circle of their married sexuality.

To be sure, there are varying reasons for this arrangement, but suffice it to say that many white couples find it infinitely pleasurable and deeply satisfying and fulfilling to invite the black man into their bed to partake of and enjoy sexual intimacy with the white wife. While some white wives take black lovers behind their husband’s backs, many find this unnecessary, because their husbands are encouraging and supportive of their interracial intimacies.

The smart white husband, who recognizes in his wife the seeds of desire for interracial intimacy, should nurture and encourage the growth and development of her sexuality in this area. Many white couples report a newfound joy and satisfaction in their relationship when they have incorporated interracial intimacy into it.

The pleasure and satisfaction the white woman experiences at the hands of her black lover allow her to be sexually healthy and whole, in turn making her a happier and more secure partner for her husband. White couples that engage in this lifestyle also tend to bond deeper together and achieve more satisfaction in their sexual relationship as well.

Many black men question why a white husband would allow, much less encourage, his woman to be sexually intimate with a black man. I believe it is because he knows that the black man can bring out aspects of his woman’s sexuality that he cannot! This is not a value judgment about white men vs. black men; rather it is an acknowledgment that black men have that special ability to sexually excite, inspire, and pleasure the white female. Of that there can be no doubt.

Knowing this, what white husband who truly loves and cares for his wife, would want to deny her the incredible pleasure that the interracial lifestyle can bring? But others might ask, what is IN IT for the white man?

The white man marvels at the incredible contrast in skin color, the muscled ebony hunk on his pale and soft white woman, the sight of the black man’s muscular buttocks clenching as he drives his majestic penis into the warm yielding softness of the white woman’s vagina. The sighs and moans of pure pleasure that emanate from his woman indicate a level of satisfaction that is deep and primal.

Red Keyhole response:

OK, let’s all take a deep breath here … There’s certainly no question that here’s a writer with a powerful passion for white female sex partners. Whew! This stuff is poetic, but it’s also darn hot … Anyway, there’s also no question that a significant segment of couples in the “alternative lifestyle” – Hotwifing in particular, and Mandingo sex – find a turn-on from the sex recreation of the white wife with a black “visitor” (i.e., “bull” in Hotwifing lingo).

This is an interesting phenomenon, and the Red Keyhole blog has posted a fair amount of information and case studies dealing with it. See:

Hotwifing issues and cases

But it’s probably quite a stretch to extrapolate this to the entire US married white population as a whole. Nevertheless, for any wives (and potential cuckolds) out there who might be pondering the jump into Mandingo Nirvana … this pitch just might cinch the case.


Mandingo sex typically involves several black males engaging in sexual recreation with a white woman, usually the wife (or girlfriend) of a white couple.

It is a powerful force of nature, this hunger between black men and white women, and it must … it WILL be satisfied! He knows that black loving touches something very deep, primitive, and magical for his woman, and that she is better, more complete, and more fulfilled for having experienced it. The white man gets to see his precious white woman at her most sexual, and beautiful, as her arms encircle her black man’s back and her hips come up to eagerly meet his every thrust, until he shoots his hot black semen deep within her, causing her orgasm to become more and more intense as it cascades through her entire being! She returns to her white husband’s arms totally spent and exhausted, but thoroughly satisfied and fulfilled.

Red Keyhole response:

White female-black male sexual attraction is “a powerful force of nature”? Well, maybe … Problem is, you could say the same thing about just about all sexual attraction.

When next the husband and wife make love, their passion is fueled by the shared recollections of her interracial adultery. The wife is grateful for her husband’s gift of sexual freedom that allows her to enjoy the black man, and that gratitude helps deepen the bond of love between them. The white husband feels much love and pride for his woman, for the way she shares with him the sights, sounds, and lovely reality of her interracial desire for the black man, submitting to the black man sexually in her husband’s presence, without hesitation or shame, so as to hold nothing back before her husband’s appreciative eyes.

Black men should realize that the very finest expression of the interracial lifestyle comes when the white couple invites him to share his sexuality with the wife in her husband’s presence. Some black men are turned off by this, preferring to be with the wife alone, but more and more black men realize that the acceptance of the white man should outweigh this.

Black men should understand that the expression of their sexuality with the white man’s wife is something to take pride in. They SHOULD want the white husband to see and hear it, and to know how much pleasure they are giving his woman. This arrangement is something truly beautiful to behold for all concerned!

Red Keyhole response:

Hey, black dudes, get over your hang-up here … Yes, indeed (as Red Keyhole and other sites continue to document abundantly), there are legions of white husbands and boyfriends who get off on seeing you bang “their” ladies. Jeez, have some respect, and at least let them see you do it …

Interracial sexuality in our society is by its very nature seductive! It wins over the hearts and minds because at its heart it is about people getting together to pleasure and enjoy each other.

Young white women in our society, freed from the prejudice their mother’s generation held, are showing their true needs and desires, as more and more frequently they can be seen in the muscular arms of black boys and men. Teenage interracial sexuality is spreading like wildfire, and there is no stopping it, because in truth there is no will or desire to stop it.

White parents in increasing numbers are able to see their daughters with black boyfriends, and be accepting, even encouraging this trend. They know it is the future. While they may not admit it publicly, they want their daughters to be free to love and enjoy as they wish. White fathers understand all too well why their daughters date black, and the look of contentment on the face of their little girl tells them all they need to know. While they may have their misgivings, they are also struck by the wonder of it all. They see their daughters in the arms of black boys, and the sight is beautiful to behold, as is their daughters’ unashamed affection for their black boyfriends.

This phenomenon is the final nail in the coffin of prejudice and racism. When the white man acknowledges the black man’s sexuality and is comfortable with that sexuality around his women, then you know things have changed in a very fundamental way.

Red Keyhole response:

OK … excellent sentiments … but take heed of Red Keyhole’s caveats stated above. Remember: It’s within the lifetimes of many of use alive today that just “reckless eyeballing” (of an attractive white woman) in places like the suburbs and rural areas near Baton Rouge, Birmingham, Atlanta, and Charlotte could earn a black man a swing at the end of a lynch rope. Now, it seems like a different galaxy, a whole different dimension – we’re coolly discussing the popularity of Mandingo sex …

… Which can give us all a false sense of security, a blindness to the danger that lurks just beneath America’s supposedly civilized and oh-so-sophisticated veneer. Keep in mind that all the advances in human freedom, all the supposed “progress” in today’s civilization and societal attitudes, is eminently reversible as long as capitalist class society, and capitalist class rule, exists.

As for why so many white women seem so extra-lustful toward black male sex partners, some comments…

Breaching the Interracial taboo — Breaching any sexual taboo almost always adds extra “spice” to the sex, so this undoubtedly plays a major role in this attraction…

Black male mystique — It’s undeniable that there’s a mystique among many white females about black male sexual attributes (penis size, stamina, semen load, etc.) … It’s also hyped by much of the media (and porn sites), but it exists, and who knows? Maybe there’s some validity at the base of it … (And let’s not forget the plethora of black male athletes in basketball, American football, boxing, and … golf!) Also important, a mystique by its nature tends to be something hidden, so maybe a lot of white females are just … curious?

The “bad boy” effect — Dunno if it’s been researched all that much, but most people recognize that lots of women might want to marry doctors, lawyers, or just plain reliable breadwinners (to support kids and family life), but in their heart of hormones, they gravitate toward “bad boys” (might even want to have a kid on the side with one). And, in American racist class society, black males probably personify the quintessence of “bad boy” … they’re routinely portrayed as criminals, thugs, hoodlums, troublemakers … Sure, it’s thoroughly a racist attitude, but nevertheless, it somehow results in lots of very steamy hot sex between white females and black males…

Black male relationship behavior — For lack of a better rubric, let’s use this — basically, it refers to the cultural difference between black male “courtship” and relationship attitudes and behavior with women, and that of white males. Hard to describe … but sometimes even Type-A women want a “strong” man to assert control over them, to call the shots, but also to treat them like a sexual animal (“You make me feel like a natural woman”) … In contrast, there’s a perception that white male partners tend to be extra-deferential, ready to let the female “take control”, respectful of equality, etc. Utterly baffling that women, white (or of whatever race or ethnic background), would prefer the he-man “me man, you woman” type to the polite, considerate, thoughtful, respectful, more wimpy type … but go figure. Also, probably related to the “bad boy” syndrome discussed above…

Anyway, that’s some food for thought that emerges from the convoluted but feverish analysis factory at Red Keyhole. On the other hand, who knows? Maybe it is all about Destiny, or some kind of mystical magnetism flowing through the DNA of black males and white females. In any case, Red Keyhole strongly doubts that all those white females getting orgasmed out of their gourds by black dudes are really spending much time debating these hypotheticals …