Guide to mother-son incest — How a son can seduce his mom, 1 — Initial preparatory steps toward an amorous-erotic relationship

[This entry was initially posted to the original Red Keyhole blog on 19 July 2011.]

With this posting, the Red Keyhole blog is launching a Guide to mother-son incest – an educational endeavor primarily designed to encourage and assist both moms and their sons toward achieving mutually fulfilling and healthy incestuous erotic relationships. One should note that this blog’s now-extensive collection of actual case studies on this issue can also serve as a “guide by example” with respect to how a mom or son can signal amorous interest, “break the ice”, parlay familiar kissing and touching into erotic signals, and lead the other partner into the first act of incest.

For a son to be sexually attracted to his mother is entirely a natural and normal pattern in human development … And this attraction, conscious or subconscious, is so powerful that capitalist class society, for a variety of reasons (particularly focused on mandating a family structure to preserve property inheritance as well as other factors), has enforced a ferociously powerful taboo to disparage, inhibit, and criminalize incest – with mother-son incest perhaps the most vilified of all.

The great groundbreaking psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud identified the attraction of sons for their mothers as an “Oedipus complex”, named after the ancient Greek myth (featured in classical Greek dramatic works) in which the young man Oedipus, albeit unknowingly, marries his own mother, Jocasta, and has children with her (leading in the myth, of course, to disaster and tragedy). Nowadays, more and more cases of successful and happy mother-son incestuous relationships continue to emerge, so that the menace of inevitably dire consequences is largely in the minds and libidinal fears of those who promulgate the taboo against mother-son incest, or who are in its spell.

Often, a mom-son incestuous relationship is worth pursuing – if both mom and son consent – because both mom and son can teach a lot to each other sexually, and this can be healthy and fulfilling for both partners in most cases. There are, however, some caveats…

Beware “age of consent”

First, the age of any young person is a critical issue, in view of the potential threat of “age of consent” laws in effect, which basically criminalize sex under the age of 16 or 18 (depending on the country, or US state, where sex occurs). For more on this, see:

Age of consent issues and cases

Age of consent

Any son, at an age under this arbitrary “age of consent”, pursuing his mother sexually, should therefore be acutely aware of the possible consequences, particularly for his mom, if their incestuous relationship should be discovered and prosecuted by state authorities. This implies that the relationship should be basically kept a secret between him and his mom – no boasting about it, no sharing the secret even with close friends, no publicizing, no texting or “sexting” … Otherwise, he places his mom in great legal jeopardy.

Second, both mom and son should understand that, even when both parties are adults, incest is a crime in most countries and US states. Furthermore, even leaving aside the legal jeopardy issue, the social-cultural stigma and deep hostility in public attitudes is a factor to be wary of.

OK … now that these legal and social-cultural implications are clear … let’s suppose you’re an adolescent or young adult male, you find yourself very strongly sexually attracted to your mom, and you’re wondering how to nudge your relationship with her out of a traditional mom-son “family” mode and into an amorous and erotic mode, so you and she can fornicate with each other into Paradise.

First, let’s consider some unfavorable and then favorable factors in pursuing incest with your mom…

Unfavorable factors

Traditional relationship — Since your birth, Mom has cultivated a “traditional” maternal-filial relationship with you. She’s strongly accustomed to relating to you in this way, and it’s quite a challenge for her to break through that into a sexual relationship with you.

Taboo against incest — This, of course, is really, really intense in modern society – although the intensity does vary somehwat from family to family and person to person. Just about all of us, especially in more or less “advanced” capitalist socieities today, are basically brainwashed to have a “Yeewww” reaction to the mere thought of incest … and Mom will be burdened by this intense aversion also. However, clearly, millions worldwide are managing to overcome this and enjoy fulfilling incestuous relationships – so there is hope.

Mom’s other male relationship(s) — If you’re living with a single mom, the situation is simpler. But if Mom has a man – your dad, your stepdad, or maybe her boyfriend – it will probably be a hurdle for her to overcome any loyalty she feels toward him, and guilt over “cheating” on him. Not that it can’t be overcome … but it’s another challenge.

Legal concerns — First of all, in the USA, UK, and most other countries, incest is illegal even between consenting adults, and your mom may know this – but it’s probably less of a significant factor than the Incest taboo itself. The second factor could be more important – if your age is below the “age of consent”, most parents should realize that any kind of sexual activity with you could land them in some very serious trouble (liable for criminal prosecution). Not an overwhelming obstacle to your seduction strategy – but another challenge, nonetheless.

Favorable factors

Affectionate familiarity — With other females in your life, outside your family, you typically have to get to know them and “break the ice” before you can venture making any overt sexual or even familiar advance – like, say, kissing, caressing, hugging. But with Mom, kisses, caresses, hugs, etc. are expected and welcome. This is a huge advantage in pursuing Mom sexually. This puts you way ahead in the game of Erotic Pursuit … because kisses, caresses, hugs, and other forms of intimate sensual contact can be used, manipulated, and intensified into signals of sexual intent (just like they can with any girl that lets you kiss her). Together with other techniques and stratagems, these sensual maneuvers also push you way ahead in the campaign to seduce Mom, helping to overcome some of the “unfavorable factors” discussed above which might otherwise seem impossibly daunting.


A son’s sensual familiarity with his mom can be intensified to convey sexual interest, and Mom’s female hormones may help with the rest of the seduction…

Sexual “chemistry” — Otherwise known as “hormones”, this factor is also a huge trump card in your seduction strategy. Basically, you must focus on Mom as a hot, sexually desirable female, an object of sexual desire, and keep your focus there. On her part, she will sense this. No matter what her other cognitive functions tell her, her own basic sexual instincts and emotions are extremely powerful and have the potential to overrule those “cognitive functions” (the “unfavorable factors” discussed above). Your job as a lusty young male, pursuing her, is to persistently appeal to those emotions and instincts. You will probably have to deal with some of them “cognitively”, arguing, for example, against the Incest taboo (“Why does it matter, if we really want each other?”) But her own basic sexual drive (her own libido) is basically gonna be on your side in this effort.

Cougar effect — Even though you’re a lot younger than Mom, this is almost surely an advantage … because just about any mature woman welcomes the sexual attention of a younger male. Even your mom is unlikely to blithely ignore and squelch her feelings of pride and improved self-image in being sexually admired and desired – i.e., lusted after – by a much younger male, even if he is her own son. She may suppress those emotions, but not without considerable difficulty.

Exploit advantages and opportunities — but cautiously

The good news is that the Favorable Factors listed just above tend to be far more powerful than the disadvantages previously listed – mainly because they invoke, stir, and arouse extremely powerful sexual emotions. That gives your seduction efforts a real and significant advantage.

You need to signal and communicate your basic sexual interest persistently – but neither annoyingly nor aggressively. Keep yourself from going too far, too fast.

But do keep a constant eye out for opportunities to nudge your seduction ahead further, a step at a time. Keep subtly signaling your affection for Mom, but also that your interest has a sexual element to it, and you’re not just being a very loving, nice little boy.

Compliment her on how attractive she looks. Avoid words like “sexy”, but if you do use a hot-button word like that, use it cautiously and with discretion. When you compliment her for her hair, let her see by the look in your eyes that you think it’s sexy. If you like her lipstick, let your eyes tell her that you’d like to French-kiss her. (In a later installment of this Guide, we’ll discuss how to shift to kissing her on those lips, and then how to transition into sexual kissing…)

Compliment her on what she’s wearing, how “hot” she looks in it (this could be an opportunity to delicately use the word “sexy”). But let your eyes do a lot of the “talking” – sometimes “eye talk” can convey more than any spoken word.

Through your eyes and your body language, you want her to understand that you regard her as one very sexy animal. That’s the essence of what virtually all women crave, sexually … and if she senses that basic animal-to-animal lust coming from you, her “cognitive functions” will have a very hard time resisting your overtures.

But remember – proceed patiently and persistently, with your “eyes on the prize” … but very cautiously. Get some positive feedback from Mom at each step, as you advance.

Your relationship needs to stay between you and her. If there’s another guy in her life – your dad, your stepdad, or, say, her boyfriend – this is an additional, although not insurmountable, complication … but she must be sufficiently pulled away from him, and toward her relationship with you. (There are exceedingly rare cases where the dad or stepdad actually tolerates, or even encourages mom-son incest – but certainly, never assume this.)

If you get any inkling she’s discussing your behavior with him, back off – way, way off. This is especially true if she starts questioning how you’re coming on to her … which can possibly lead to the dreaded notion of sending you to “therapy” (to “cure” you of your “sick” desires…).

On the other hand, if you play your seduction cards right, the reward is fantastic. There are lots of young guys and their moms out there that have succeeded in finding the delights of incestuous sex with each other. (See Mother-son incest issues and cases.)

One way or another, you could be one of them. Hang in there.