Adult incestuous brother-sister couples — Personal accounts of “committed” relationships, love, happiness (case narratives)

[This entry was initially posted to the original Red Keyhole blog on 12 July 2011.]

Romantic incestuous relationships between brother and sister can be very strong and enduring, persisting well into adulthood and even fully “committed” relationships. How common is this among incestuous siblings?

The following question was posted in November 2010 to the thread “happy sibling couples” in the Genetic Sexual Attraction online discussion forum by a participant identified as “Skygod”:

…I was wondering if there are any sibling couples out there. Are you living as a couple or as siblings? … I … would love to hear from someone who has taken the leap and found happiness.

This evoked a number of responses, between late November and early December 2010, selected and excerpted below for their unique research interest and educational value – particularly in providing insight into the highly charged emotions and psychological processes involved in incestuous heterosexual relations between siblings. Several refer to a “GSA” relationship – genetic sexual attraction, i.e., incest.

An aspect of these exchanges that is striking, once again, is the relatively high proportion of female siblings (i.e., sisters) that are vigorously committed to or pursuing incest with their own brothers – thus, once more, tending to refute the widespread impression among the media, bourgeois feminists, and other representatives of capitalism’s Morality Establishment that the female is invariably some kind of “victim” in such incest.

The original comments have been slightly edited to improve orthography and readability. Original language and style have been retained as much as possible – including somewhat mature language – in part to indicate such aspects as physical details, psychological dynamics, and emotional and moral attitudes.

[Response from Janet (“Two of Us”)]

Hi Skygod, I read your first post, and know exactly what you are feeling.

Me and my brother were both married … but it was exactly like a drug, we just couldn’t help ourselves.

We’ve now been living together for 9 months, and although I know what we done and the people we hurt, it’s the happiest I’ve ever been in my life. Both our marriages were not good ones … not sure if they were, if things would of worked out differently …

Not saying it was right just because we were both not that happy in our marriages, but we were like a steam train, it seemed nothing could stop us …

I don’t regret what I’ve done, neither does my brother, because we are so happy. But as other stories here [reveal], not all relationships have a good outcome.

I had to follow my heart, and I’m glad I did.

I wish you strength in whatever your decisions are.

Take care

Janet.

[Response from “Dreamer”]

I am currently in a GSA relationship with my h/b [half-brother]. This relationship started in October.

I have been love with him since I met him, 1 year ago, but the relationship did not become physical until our third meeting in October.

The person who commented that GSA is more powerful than crack cocaine does not know how right they are. I am so in love with my h/b I would do anything. I feel like a freak, but it does not matter.

Currently I am preparing to move out of state to be with him. I am giving up everything! I hope we will be happy.

I am scared to death, but I feel if I do not do this, I will live to regret it.

Maybe someone on here can tell me why this love feels like no other … it compares to nothing I have ever felt before. And I mean nothing.

Also, does it ever go away or wear off like other types of love or infatuation?

I love this man … sometimes it does not feel good inside, but I crave it, just like a drug. Is that normal in all GSA relationships??

I hope I can get some insight … because I can really use some.

[Response from Janet (“Two of Us”)]

Hi dreamer, I forgot to add my brother is my full blood brother.

As for it wearing off … Well, I’ve known him for over a year now, been living together for 9 months, and it hasn’t worn off yet.

It’s funny, we often have this conversation, comparing it to the ‘honeymoon’ period, that in other relationships for me has worn off after a month or 2. This hasn’t worn off at all.

I know just how you feel when you say you crave it like a drug, My heart still skips a beat when I know he’s due home from work. I’m not sure if and when it will calm down for me.

Take care

Janet


Often it’s the sister who most assertively pursues an incestuous relationship with her brother.

[Response from “Li’l Sis”]

Me and my full brother have been in a GSA relationship for over 5 years now and are still going strong.

[Response from “One for Her”]

My sister and I are happily in love and live together.

[Response from “Lost in Time”]

My h/b [half-brother] and I have been living together for 11 months. We have had our good days and our bad days. We have fought, and had losses. Our losses have brought us closer together, and we cling to each other.

Yes, everyone knows we are half siblings who are a little touchy, rub noses occasionally … He may accidently grab my bottom or breast, we may even get a little tipsy and kiss in front of people who know us – what are they going to say? Ooops!

I do know when he looks at me with those dark eyes shining and that fulfilling smile on his face, my heart melts. We have family that we don’t want to know, and family that we don’t care knowing.

GSA is hard, and can be harder if you make it that way. So, I pray for you. That [is] whether it be this relationship, or another, that you find TRUE love. One that bends when [it] needs to and stands firm. One who wakes up everyday, and you know you are the most amazing and beautiful thing he has ever seen. When you know in your relationship, and don’t wonder and guess, it’s the best ever.

As far as the “honeymoon phase” goes, it is like a normal relationship in true love. My grandparents’ honeymoon phase didn’t end til my grandfather died.

Take Care.

[Response from Jean Luc]

Obviously there are those out there who do have the long-term relationships that are real. I think the more interesting question would be the ages of the people involved in those long-term happy GSA relationships.

My sister is 38 and I am 46 now, but our GSA relationship lasted from the time I was 35 till I was 39. But as I have mentioned before, we still have a good relationship as B/S [brother-sister].